This is a topic that I understand and can relate to. After three pregnancy, there were times when it felt as if I was losing friends and couldn’t understand why. What happened to all of my friends? Why we’re not going out like we use to before the pregnancy? I had all of these questions in mind and as the years went by, I later discovered a few things that I’m going to share with you in this post.
I believe where the problem comes in at is how loosely we are using the word “friend”. When you go on social media, the new word is “sis” and you find that people you barely even know are quick to say “Hey sis” as if the two of you have been knowing each other for years.
If you’re trying to figure out why you are losing friends during your pregnancy, then first you want to take a closer look at what the word friend really means.
Friend- A person whom one knows and with whom one has a bond of mutual affection. (A close friend, sister, brother, best friend)
Acquaintance- A person one knows slightly, but who is not a close friend. (A contact, colleague, associate)
Associate- A partner or colleague in business or at work. (A partner, coworker, colleague)
- Which one did you really lose? Now that you know the meaning of friend, I want you to ask yourself, did I lose a friend? Or did I lose an acquaintance or an associate? Getting clear on the people in your life who you call a friend and taking a closer look at the relationship the two of you have with one another will give you clarity on where the two of you stand in the relationship.
- Did you really lose a friend? Or could it be that the two of you are in different seasons of your life and that’s why they’re distance? You are in a season of adding a new addition to your family and other people in your circle may be in a season of going back to school, getting married or relocating. Identifying what seasons everyone is in will help you to get clear on if they’re action is from jealousy or a new season in one’s life.
- What did you learn from them? What did you teach them? I believe we never lose those people who are our true friends. For those individuals in your life who are distancing themselves from you now that you are pregnant, ask yourself, what did I learn from them? People come into our life for a reason, a season and a lifetime. Find the reason why the two of you path cross and then wish them well in life.
Losing friends is not always about jealousy but about one person outgrowing the relationship and entering into another stage of their life. In this season of your life, focus your attention on you and your baby and hang around those individuals who want to be apart of your new family.