I’ve posted a quote on my Facebook page a couple of weeks ago by Iyanla Vanzant and it said “His leaving wasn’t about you. It was about him.”
After a breakup we tend to take everything personal and feel rejected by the one we once loved but what if the breakup wasn’t about you but was all about him. This was the case in my situation with my ex, my relationship ended because I got pregnant with a child that my ex did not want and as a result of it the relationship ended with me feeling rejected and hurt.
Everything my ex said to me I took it personal. Part of my depression was because I thought that my ex thought I wasn’t good enough to have his child and that was the reason why he didn’t want me to have my baby. Wrong! God begin to deal with me and show me how his leaving was all about him, it had nothing to do with me or my daughter.
Clarity came to me once I sat back and thought about everything my ex said to me throughout my pregnancy which was how he couldn’t help me because he is legally blind now and he felt like he wouldn’t be of any help to me. He also stated that he didn’t have the money like he use to have to raise another baby.
When I think about all of the things that my ex said to me, what he was telling me was his fears of not being able to financially provide for me and my child and he also expressed fear of not being a good father for my daughter because of his disability he now have. None of this is about me but him. So I no longer have to feel rejected by him. This is what freed me from the feelings of rejection in this particular situation. I talk more on this subject on Day 3 of my Get Over Him Challenge and I also talk about how to turn rejection into acceptance so that you can begin to move on with your life.
Let me end with encouraging you that the breakup, the things he said to you and all the bad feelings he projected off onto you was all about him and not you and what he is going through at this moment. Do not give the devil any room to enter into your life with the root seed of rejection. Know that God accepts you and love you and that’s all that matter.
Psalm 27:10 NIV “Though my father and mother forsake me, the Lord will receive me.”
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